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Write Out Your Purpose In Life

I think it is so very important for every one of us to live life with a purpose.  Proverbs 29:18 states, “Where there is no vision, the people perish . . . .” 

The apostle Paul said, “For to me to live is Christ and to die is gain.”  Regarding his purpose Billy Graham said, “I was faithful to what God wanted me to do, I maintained integrity in every area of my life, and I lived what I preached.” 

What is your purpose for living today?  The four questions below may help you find your purpose.

1.  What will your “footprints” be on this earth?

2.  How would you like to be remembered by family members, friends, and associates?

3.  How would you spend your precious time if you only had two years to live?

4.   What would you like to see etched on your tombstone?

Today: Write out your purpose in life by completing this sentence, “My purpose in life is . . . .”  

SIMPLE HABITS FOR MARITAL HAPPINESS, released December 2019, will make a great Christmas gift for married friends, children, grandchildren, parents, and other family members.  Please share on Facebook, Twitter - @Dr_Randy_S, and Instagram the December release of SIMPLE HABITS FOR MARITAL – Practical Skills and Tools That Build a Strong SATISFYING RELATIONSHIP.  

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Change To Benefit Your Marriage

Marriages that are healthy and happy are continually improving and growing.  Improvement and growth happens through change.  The questions below focus on change in order to strengthen your marital satisfaction

1.  In your view, how have you changed since you got married?

2.  Which of these changes are positive and which are negative?

3.  Which of the changes have enhanced your marital enjoyment together?

4.  What one thing would you like to change about your own behavior?

5.  How can your spouse help you achieve that goal?

6.  What one habit or behavior could your spouse change that would make life more pleasant for you?

7.  What positive behavior can you suggest to replace this behavior or habit that needs to be changed?

 Today: Discuss these questions with your spouse and change to benefit your marriage.  

 SIMPLE HABITS FOR MARITAL HAPPINESS, released December 2019, will make a great Christmas gift for married friends, children, grandchildren, parents, and other family members.  Please share on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram the December release of SIMPLE HABITS FOR MARITAL – Practical Skills and Tools That Build a Strong SATISFYING RELATIONSHIP.  

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7 Ways to Rebuild Broken Trust  

Trust is one of the key components for healthy relationships.  Shattered trust will severely crack any friendship, family relationship, or marriage connection.  Broken trust may occur from lies, abuse, infidelity, financial secrets, etc.  Shown below are 7 ideas to rebuild trust in order to restore a relationship bond.

1.  Acknowledge the problem.  The offender must admit that their words or actions demolished the trust.

2.  Sincere repentance.  The offender offers either a verbal or written genuine apology. 

3.  Request forgiveness.  Just saying “I am sorry” is not enough because asking for forgiveness helps validate a repentant attitude.

4.  Choose to forgive.  The offended person needs to offer forgiveness to begin the reconciliation process. 

5.  Restorative words and actions.  The offended person may make a list of words and actions for the offender that will restore faith in the offender.

6.  The offended needs to risk wisely.  Please use reason and logic and understand that rebuilding trust increases 1% at a time through truthful words and honest actions.

7.  Trust is a percentage.  Realize that no one is 100% trustworthy but the higher in the 90th percentile a friendship, family relationship, or marriage is the more likely for a satisfying relationship. 

Today:  If necessary, begin using these 7 steps for rebuilding a broken trust in order to achieve the goal of a healthy reconciliation. 

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8 Qualities For A Successful Life  

Having a successful life is a worthy goal for all of us.  Research has found that possessing 8 qualities can lead to a productive and enjoyable life. 

1.  Radiate self-confidence.  When self-confident we are enthusiastic, positive, ambitious, supportive of others, happy, and content with life. 

2.  Ask for wisdom.  When pursuing a goal we need to ask, ask, ask, for wisdom from those who have already achieved our dream. 

3.  Determine in advance what we will do and what we will not do.  We have a game plan with specific details in order to not deviate from achieving our goal.

4.  Be willing to take risks and dream big. We must risk wisely and at the same time have significant goals that stretch us.

5.  Realize setbacks are part of life.  We can learn from our “goal delays” and then not repeat mistakes that we made in the past. 

6.  Celebrate successes.  After achieving a goal, it is important to commemorate our triumph by going out for a special meal, having a getaway weekend, going on a special vacation, etc.

7.  Be satisfied with what we have and spend less than we make. We need to understand that “things” don’t bring happiness but it is our journey of serving God and others that makes our life enjoyable. 

8.  Give back to God and charitable organizations.  We are never fully successful unless we are “givers” in many ways including financial gifts to God and charities. 

Today:  Begin incorporating these attributes in order to improve and grow in your personal life.

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MONDAY MOTIVATIONAL QUOTE

Similar to the wisdom of Proverbs, every Monday I will share a practical wisdom quote.  I pray this quote will make a difference in your personal life and relationships.  

Monday, February 25, 2019

“It’s so important to realize that every time you get upset, it drains your emotional energy.  Losing your cool makes you tired.  Getting angry a lot messes with your health.”  Joyce Meyer

12 Success Thoughts From 100-Year-Olds  

Certainly, 100-year-old individuals have made some mistakes along the way but they also have tremendous wisdom from their long life experiences.  Shown below are tremendous thoughts from centenarians that can benefit each of us. 

1.  You cannot go too far without passion.  Find a job you are passionate about and pursue it. 

2.  There is nothing that can be gained in worrying.

3. Believe in yourself.  Such belief can propel you to unbelievable heights.

4.  Forgive yourself and everyone around you.

5.  Your relationships are vital to who you will become.  Learn to develop the right relationships.

6.  Laugh.  There is no point in taking life too seriously.

7.  Life is fun. It’s all up to the person.  Be satisfied.  You don’t have to be happy all the time, you need to be satisfied. 

8.  Don’t look at the calendar, just keep celebrating every day.

9.  The only thing constant is change, so you have to learn to embrace it. 

10.   Don’t compare.  You’ll never be happy with your life.  The grass is always greener. 

11.  Concern yourself only with what really matters in the long run.

12.  Happiness comes from a positive attitude, optimism, and living in the now.

Today:  Read the 12 thoughts out loud to absorb the wisdom of 100-year-olds. 

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Monday Motivational Quotes

Similar to the wisdom of Proverbs, every Monday I will share a practical wisdom quote(s).  For President’s Day, I pray these seven presidential quotes will make a difference in your life.  

“Honesty is the first chapter of the book wisdom.”  Thomas Jefferson

 “Ninety-nine percent of failures come from people who make excuses.” George Washington

 “In the end, it’s not the years in your life that count, it’s the life in your years.” Abraham Lincoln

  “Whatever you are, be a good one.”  Abraham Lincoln

 “Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.”  Abraham Lincoln

 “Live simply, love generously, care deeply, speak kindly, leave the rest to God.” Ronald Reagan

 “Ask not what your country can do for you, but what you can do for your country.” John F. Kennedy

15 Danger Signs A Marriage Is In Trouble

Not recognizing that a marriage is sick and needs outside help from a skilled marriage counselor, pastor, etc. is an “illness” that can easily destroy the oneness of a couple.  Usually before a divorce is even final, one or both partners have been “emotionally divorced” for period of time.

Hence, it is absolutely essential that couples understand the “sickness signs” that may create the slippery slope toward marital brokenness.  Although not an exhaustive list, shown below are 15 Danger Signs

 1.         Positive times together outside the home rarely occur.  In addition, when a couple spends time together, sadly much of that time is more negative than positive.

2.         One partner controls most aspects of the marriage.  The relationship is not a partnership because decisions are one-sided a majority of the time.

3.         Spouses seldom eat meals together which creates a “single mindset” more than a couple relationship.

4.         Politeness seems to have left the relationship, meaning kind words and compliments are rarely given by one or both spouses.

5.         When a hurt or disappointment occurs, an apology almost never happens and/or forgiveness is not given, building a “grudge wall” between the spouses.

6.         One spouse keeps secrets-financial, technology, relationships, passwords, etc.

7.         One spouse does most of the “giving,” while the other partner is more of a “taker.”

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8.         One spouse regularly overreacts to minor hurts or quickly becomes defensive when a suggestion is made. Such unhealthy sensitivity often leads to disrespectful arguments that escalate out of control.

9.         Physical touch like lengthy hugs and kisses are infrequent.  Sexual intimacy also rarely happens or is almost nonexistent.

10.       Sarcasm becomes common with hurtful teasing where one spouse is the butt of jokes.

11.       Complaints have become attacks made on a spouse’s character rather than the goal of correcting bothersome words or behaviors.

12.       One spouse is growing and improving, while the other partner lacks the desire to grow and maybe has even slid backwards in some ways.

13.       Opposite sex friendships develop and become stronger than the marital connection.

14.       One spouse has personal issues like anger, selfishness, addictions, OCD, compulsive spending, eating disorders, that have gotten worse over the years creating an emotional divide. 

15.       Communication skills have deteriorated into serious problems like interruptions, mind-reading, memory-matching, extreme silence, negative labeling, yelling, etc.

This Week:  Discuss with your spouse how to prevent the spread of these infectious danger signs in order to have a healthy, happy marriage. 

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