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10 Ways To Encourage Your Spouse

Perhaps the best synonym for love is value.  One of the best ways to value your spouse is to continually build them up through praise and affirming actions.  Daily encouragement overcomes the disease of complacency.  Shown below are ideas for honoring and esteeming your spouse.

1.  Be a living example of Godliness.

2.  When a mistake is made be quick to forgive because both of you will disappoint one another at times.

3.  Remember “little things” mean a lot so initiate quick kisses, touches, hand holding, etc.

4.  Initiate a surprise “date night.”

5.  Smile regularly and laugh with your spouse

6.  Begin thinking about a special way to celebrate your next anniversary and share your ideas with your spouse.

 7.  Respect your spouse’s opinion even though it may be different than your perspective. 

 8.  Never let a day go by without saying, “I appreciate . . . “

 9.  Place a “love note” on your spouse’s car seat, under their pillow, their purse or briefcase, etc.

 10. Be a “massage therapist” to lift your spouse’s spirits when they are in a low mood.

Today:  Begin valuing spouse through these using these 10 ideas or your own beneficial marital designs.

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MONDAY MOTIVATIONAL QUOTE

 

Similar to the wisdom of Proverbs, every Monday I will share a practical wisdom quote.  I pray this quote will make a difference in your personal life and relationships.  

 “What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are but how you deal with incompatibility.”  Leo Tolstoy

Five Qualities For Dealing With Life Problems

Life is not fair and filled with continual challenges.  Developing mental toughness is an important goal in order to handle various life issues.  Shown below are 5 qualities that can make a difference when a life trial arises. 

1.  Embrace change.  Be flexible and willing to adapt when change occurs because changes are part of daily life.  Recognizing that some type of change is always just around the corner builds mental toughness. 

2. Be confident.  Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can, or think you can’t—you are right.”  Overcome any doubt by making things happen and believing in your abilities and talents.

3.  Be positive. With God by your side, have the internal strength and character to find solutions for life difficulties.  When a life crisis occurs have the belief that “I can and I will cope with this problem by searching for answers.” 

4.  Avoid toxic individuals.  Negative, difficult people are emotionally frustrating and can easily drain you and pull you down rather than make your stronger.  Toxic people only hurt your positive attitude.

5.  Let go of setbacks.  Focus your attention on what you did right, not what you did wrong.  Forgetting the past and living in the present moment will empower you toward success.   

Today:  Begin using these 5 qualities and develop more personal assets through daily reading of positive materials. 

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10 Questions To Assess Marital Abuse

Marital abuse is the silent sin that causes damaging emotional and/or physical pain in too many relationships.  Abuse in marriage involves a persistent pattern of behaviors to exercise control, power, and entitlement.  There are six types of abuse:  emotional, verbal, physical, sexual, financial, and time.  Shown below are just a few questions to assess possible abuse in a marital relationship.

1.  Do you feel like you have to “walk on egg shells” to keep your spouse from getting angry?

2.  Does your spouse criticize many things that you do?

3.  Does your spouse isolate you by trying to cut you off from family and friends?

4. Are you compliant because you are afraid to hurt your spouse’s feelings?

5.  Does your spouse give you the silent treatment to punish you?

6.  Is your spouse hypersensitive and easily insulted?

7.  Are you frightened by your spouse’s temper?

8.  Does your spouse blame you for their anger?

9.  Does your spouse do everything to win an argument?

 10.  Does your spouse rant about injustices that are just part of life?

Today:  I pray that you are able to answer “no” to all these questions.  If you answered “yes” to a question(s) and have concerns for your personal well-being and marriage seek help from a professional. 

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7 Ways To Build Confidence In Your Child  

Regularly everyone, including your child, has setbacks and disappointments but what makes a difference in the response is a determined, never give up attitude!   Handling the challenges of life with a determined spirit requires that your child have confidence.    Shown below are 7 ways to build confidence in your child.

1.         Verbally affirm your child often with two phrases:  “I am proud of you” and “I believe in  you.”

2.         Help your child understand mistakes and setbacks are tremendous opportunities to learn even more and grow. 

3.         Teach your child to look for solutions when problems arise.  There are always solutions!

4.         Teach your child the importance of asking for help from others when looking for a solution.

5.         Stress to your child that focusing on the now, the present, is all that matters and that is what is within their control. Make a masterpiece of today!

6.         When you have a setback, model how well you handle that challenge.

7.         Every morning, have your child say aloud the affirmation, “I can and I will today!”

Today:  Begin implementing these 7 ways to build confidence in your child. 

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10 Ways To Build Up Your Spouse  

Encouragement and affirmation are essential qualities for every spouse to possess.  It is important to seek ways to lovingly build up your spouse.  Shown below are 10 Ways to express regard and praise your spouse.

1.  Tell your spouse that you are proud to be their marriage partner.

2.  Talk often about things that your partner is interested in.

3.  Through your words and actions create a home atmosphere of peace and joy.

4.  Avoid being a “nag” or a “demanding boss.”

5.  Appreciate your spouse in one specific way each day.

6.  Let your partner know your expectations in a sensitive and loving manner.

7.  Never interrupt during a conversation.

8.  Take your spouse’s hand or arm when you walk together.

9.  Regularly show your partner your sense of humor.

10.  Never let a day pass without saying “I love you.”

Today:  Use one of these 10 Ways or create your own ideas for building up your spouse. 

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10 Qualities of Healthy Relationships

 

We all want good strong relationships.  Healthy relationships are fulfilling, enjoyable, and actually help our emotional and physical well-being.  Although not an exhaustive list, shown below are 10 Qualities of Healthy Relationships. 

1.         Servanthood.  Jesus came “not to be served, but to serve, in order to pay the price and free the world from the penalty of sin.”  Only with Jesus was it a one-way street.  In healthy earthly relationships—marriage, families, friendships--serving is a two-way street.  So if something is only good for one in the relationship that is selfishness, not servanthood.

2.         Forgiveness.  Hurts, disappointments, and mistakes happen in every satisfying relationship.  Without apologizing and forgiving, a grudge wall is built between two people. 

3.         Love or “Value.”  One of the best synonyms for love is value.  When two people value each other from a servant heart and not a quid pro quo stance, that relationship will thrive.

4.         Open Communication.  Totally open communication can be brutal, so avoid it. However, loving, open communication is vital in building a strong friendship.  Being able to share joys and frustrations, both individuals speaking and listening, neither person getting defensive over topics, is essential for healthy relationships.

5.         Self-control.  The Bible says a “fruit of the Spirit” is self-control, without it friendship in marriage, families, others, and life can be difficult.  Various forms of abuse, addictions, and significant personality issues are due to an absence of self-control.    

6.         Patience.  We all can struggle with impatience, driving a car, waiting at a restaurant, shopping, so imperfection with patience is normal.  However, exhibiting patience with others and daily life, is an essential attribute for two people seeking a healthy relationship.

7.         Mutual Respect.  Two people don’t necessarily agree in every area but they respect each other’s viewpoint.  Disagree yes, disrespect no! 

8.         Kindness.  Treating people with gentleness and thoughtfulness is at the heart of a wholesome person and makes all the difference in the world when it comes to a rewarding relationship.

9.         Laughter.  Life has enough drama!  Smiles and appropriate humor are a fundamental quality for any friendship.  Light-heartedness and fun are lubrication for potential friction in life as well as any relationship. 

10.       Commitment.  In society today, loyalty is often a missing component. Commitment means that two people work on their issues by having reasonable expectations and seeking solutions. Loyalty says, “I am not leaving and will work together with you for the sake of our relationship.”     

Today:  Assess all your relationships based upon the 10 Qualities and determine where improvement is needed. 

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MONDAY MOTIVATIONAL QUOTE

Similar to the wisdom of Proverbs, every Monday I will share a practical wisdom quote.  I pray this quote will make a difference in your personal life and relationships.  

Monday, February 25, 2019

“It’s so important to realize that every time you get upset, it drains your emotional energy.  Losing your cool makes you tired.  Getting angry a lot messes with your health.”  Joyce Meyer